RAYS OF LIFE: A Reflection on Balance

I have been feeling out of alignment lately. Different aspects of my life are out of sync and it makes me feel “off.” This is common at the beginning of Fall. Summer gets us spun, with vacations and trips, longer days, more activity, and different eating habits. The Equinox arrives and there is an internal downshift into low gear.

I don’t know about you, but my body and brain go wonky. I can’t sleep when I need to, I want to sleep when I can’t. My body starts feeling “jelly” in a not so bootylicious way. And my attitude leans toward the negative side of the spectrum.

Just like the wheel alignment of the car plays such an important role in its functioning, our ‘wheel alignment’ must also be balanced. Proper alignment affects our energy efficiency, our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual performance, our maneuverability and our steering response, just as surely as tire alignment does.

In my coaching practice, I use a tool that I call Rays of Life. It helps my clients figure out what is important to them (because sometimes we lose track or forget altogether), and discover the areas of their life that may need energized and some coaching around. If you have ever done a “Wheel of Life” assessment, it is basically the same thing, mine only adds the next level reflection of assessing our sun’s inner core as well.

Because of my current wonkiness, I decided to do a standard reflection on where I am at, and determine what actions I can take to balance myself out.

First, I made a list of the areas of my life that are important to me. I had 9 on my list this time.

  1. Creativity
  2. Spirituality
  3. Family & Friends
  4. Romance
  5. My Purpose
  6. Nutrition
  7. Fitness
  8. Job
  9. Finances

Some people split their family and friends up into two aspects. Some people call their work “career” and it isn’t separate from their purpose. Some people have areas for their pets, for travel, or for their lifestyle (like shopping and material things). It’s very individual.

After I came up with my list, I reflected on each area and rated my satisfaction with it on a scale from 1 to 10.

Because I am a visual person, I decided to create a collage to symbolize my current state of affairs. I grabbed a magazine and began cutting out the rays of my sun; colors and sizes reflecting how much positive energy I had in each area.

It looks something like this:

Rays of Life Journal Page


The long thick rays are really full of energy. These are areas that I feel empowered in and good about. I feel really good about the state of my creativity, how I am spiritually nourishing myself, about my purpose in life and how I am fulfilling it, and my fitness level. Those were all rated 8 to 10.

My family and friends area was rated a 7, which is pretty good. I have been feeling a little reclusive lately, but it is by choice. Maybe I am taking advantage of some alone time before the holidays.

My Romance area is a 5. It could be better I suppose, but a part of me feels if it was a 10 right now it would distract me from everything else. Romance / Love has a way of sucking me in and taking a lot of energy from the other rays of the sun. So a 5 is satisfying, yet not a CME that’s gonna take out the grid.

So I realize I have 3 sucky areas right now, my Nutrition, my Finances, and my Job; a 4, a 3 and a 2 respectively. Those are the areas I feel I need to infuse with some energy.

So what can I do?

First, my job is not something I have a lot of control over. As a 911 dispatcher, the environment, schedule, hours, and intensity are dictated to me. This area always scores low. I have toyed with the idea of making a change, but there are some tradeoffs, like the time off, not having an in-box, and a healthy salary that keeps me holding on. But I am not powerless. I can choose my attitude. I can choose to enjoy the people I work with and ignore the parts I have no control over. I can take pride in my tasks. I can speak up responsibly about issues that are going on and even if it doesn’t affect change, I spoke my truth. These are empowering choices that can put that area up to a 5 fairly quickly.

So if my job provides a great income, why is my money ray looking so feeble. It isn’t that I don’t have money. I do. I am comfortable. But I can actually be ABUNDANT, and lately I feel like I am squandering my dollas. I have it, so I make impulsive purchases. I am not applying my resources in the right places. My goal is to pay off my debt and start living debt-free. I’ve done it before, I can do it again. It is time for me to be mindful in this area. I will be sharing some insights on the blog about my Mindful on My Money in the coming weeks under the SIMPLIFY category.

I also decided that on October 1, I am going to start my first Whole 30. Again, I have not been mindful about how I nourish my physical vehicle lately and, boy, do I feel it! I’ve been thinking about doing Whole30 for quite a while, and after doing a couple of 10 day cleanses at the beginning of the year, I feel I can do this. What we put into our body really sets the tone for how we feel and what we can accomplish.  For me, it isn’t about losing weight, it’s about feeling great – so I can do all the other amazing things I wanna do! If you want to join me, and be a Whole30 Buddy, that would be awesome. If you wanna follow My Virgin Journey in Whole30land, I’ll be posting daily entries under NOURISH.

So, how about you? When was the last time you took a selfie of the state of your life? Take a look-see and please share your comments, experiences and insights. I would love to have a conversation!

Until next…


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I call my art journals Soul Journals, because it is the space where I lay bare my soul. My journal is the perfect space to explore my inner workings, like in the case of feeling out of alignment.

Rays background

I started with a light wash of cream acrylic then blotted the pages with blue ink and yellow acrylic. Really I didn’t overwork my background for this because I knew there would be a lot going on.

Seeing stars

I love cutting magazines when I am sitting at work waiting for 911 to ring. Taking scissors to paper is a great stress reliever. I cut some stars to embellish my page.

Oil Pastel for depth

I colored around my stars a bit with oil pastels and smudged the color. This gave the stars some dimension.

Taking shape

I added my RAYS, penciling in what each represented. I’m not just making a pretty picture, I am processing my soul-self. Sometimes the art doesn’t turn out so pretty, but it is still an accurate reflection of my soul at the time.

Rays detail

Finally, I finish by journaling a little bit and doodling a little bit until I feel “done.”

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About Shannan Sinclair

Shannan Sinclair is a writer, artist, Intuitive Consultant & Soul Coach. It is her soul-driven calling to collaborate in the spiritual blossoming of her fellow Evolutionaries. She offers live and online workshops, coaching, intuitive readings, and creates Soul Systems to help fulfill that mission. Download a FREE copy of "Soul Flow: A Workbook for Creating a Lifestyle the Nourishes Your Soul" In her free time, she raised up two soul beings into beautiful, strong, capable women, teaches Zumba & is a 911 Dispatcher.

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