Forgiveness isn’t a gift you give to the person who hurt you. It’s a gift you give to yourself. Wounds unforgiven harden into bitterness and deprive us of experiencing the fullness of joy.
To be totally real and authentic, I understand this is true, but have never really known how to apply forgiveness to my life. I always felt it gave the offender a pass and didn’t hold them accountable. Or it erased it from ever happening. So I hold it all in a place somewhere between my heart chakra and my solar plexus.
As I write this, I am having an intuition that this must be where the gall bladder sits. The home of bitter bile. I feel it there, this unforgiveness, a tight little ball.
Well, I am done. I am no longer willing to house this toxin in my body or soul.
So I am going to learn how to forgive.
I invite you to join me on this journey, if you should be so brave and daring!
Our first step is to make a list. Write down the names of the people who have hurt you… who diminished you, ignored you, broke your heart…
Dig deep. Your childhood bullies, family, lovers, strangers…
Like Arya Stark in Game of Thrones, make that list. Let that build for a few days, and check back for our next step. Let us prove the power of forgiveness to ourselves.